As a femdom phone sex Mistress, I’ve been exposed to a lot of fetish – and I’m quite the expert in most of them, if I do say so myself (Although I don’t have to.  My callers speak for themselves!).  However, one I was unaware . . . → Read More: And this week,The Pain Mistress is brought to you by the letter “K”]]>

The Karate Fetish

Karate Mistress will Immobilize you

As a femdom phone sex Mistress, I’ve been exposed to a lot of fetish – and I’m quite the expert in most of them, if I do say so myself (Although I don’t have to.  My callers speak for themselves!).  However, one I was unaware of was the karate fetish.  Until last summer, when the lovely Mistress Brianna joined me out in Vegas when my wonderful submissive, jacknjerk, and I got hitched.  During one of the nights when we were longing around the pool, she filled me in on this sexy little activity.

A different kind of ball-busting

There are a good number of you who love the fact that, when I want to be, I can be a real ball-busting bitch!  Most of you however, are just looking for metaphorical ball busting.  You want me to humiliate you about your small pathetic penis, or about how there is no way you could possibly satisfy a woman because you’re a “minute man”.  There are a few of you though, who crave the real thing.

Deeds, Not Words (and if you know what cheesy ‘80’s movie that came from, you really are a loser!)

You are looking for a strong Karate Mistress who can take complete control of you and fling you around.  You’re not into sensual humiliation or words.  You want a Mistress to physically dominate and take control of you.  You have the ultimate ball-busting foot fetish.  You want my beautiful leg to snap forward and my bare foot to land right in your crotch!  Just thinking of your soft balls squishing against my toes makes me so wet!

Example of French Shibari

Japanese bondage is very much about the mind/body aspect, down to the way the rope is applied. The concept of it is that the pleasure is more in the experience of it all rather than the climax. Shibari, if you remember, is the common term used . . . → Read More: A Yen For Japanese Restraint]]>

Kinbaku Suspension

Example of French Shibari

Japanese bondage is very much about the mind/body aspect, down to the way the rope is applied. The concept of it is that the pleasure is more in the experience of it all rather than the climax. Shibari, if you remember, is the common term used to refer to the Japanese bondage art, Kinbaku.

Knots aren’t Desirable

In traditional  Shibari/Kinbaku, knots are rarely used. According to Sensei Nawa Yumio in his book on Torinawaas; it’s regarded disgraceful and distasteful. Restraints with no knots aren’t considered bondage and there is no shame in such therefore, wrappings are used instead.*  Any knots used are usually the cow hitch or overhand knot.

Karada Harness

Boxtie without Restraints

 Beginnings of a Beautiful Torment

The basic foundations for any of the Kinbaku bondage are the Boxtie Position, binding the  arms and breasts behind the person’s back, and deceptively easy to maintain. It forms the beginning of a safe and secure bondage session, most often used in conjunction with a series of complicated ties, the requirement being to hold that position for an extended amount of time.

The other being one of the more recognizable rope harness types in Japanese bondage is karada, the tying of the rope in a very intricate web-like formation. Both positions can then be used as anchor points for other techniques like suspension.

A Shrimp Tie

The third basic I want to touch on is the Shrimp Tie (called that because of the resemblance to a crab due to the widespread knees) or Ebi. This position sends a burning sensation throughout the entire body, due to the bent down position of the upper body, especially if you remain in it for any length of time, say past….ten minutes. My favorite when dealing with naughty, disobedient slaves.

 Safety Safety Safety

With any form of bondage play it’s important to do a check in, ask if they are okay. I’m a lifestyle femdom and when I domme in reality, I usually do a verbal check, every 15-30 minutes. I vary the frequency of my checks based on the newness of the sub or slave and their boundaries and limitations.

   Sound Off, Tap Out, and Quick Release

The other thing I do is to check body parts like hands and feet for numbness or coldness, or discoloration. But say like…you’re gagged or can’t communicate. I ask my slaves or submissives to ‘tap out’ with their fingers or open and close a hand if they need release or something is wrong. I keep my surgical scissors at hand. They can be found in drug stores, really handy for quick removal without worry of cutting skin.

Warning…Warning….Info Overload…Make Her Stop!

There are so many aspects of this luscious part of BDSM( I do love bondage with style) that I’ve struggled for several days to break it down to the most basic version so that you can get the general overview and not be bogged down with the details. I hope you know the restraint (no pun) I’ve had to exhibit as it’s been hard to not blast you out there with each wonderfully seductive one!

***All pictures from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_bondage****

Bondage. What does that mean to you? For many out there, the words slavery, submissive, and servitude are what leaps immediately into the forefront of the mind. True enough. Bondage and BDSM seem to go hand in hand. But to others it means so much more. It can signify a way of giving . . . → Read More: Bondage Japanese Style]]>

Bondage. What does that mean to you? For many out there, the words slavery, submissive, and servitude are what leaps immediately into the forefront of the mind. True enough. Bondage and BDSM seem to go hand in hand. But to others it means so much more. It can signify a way of giving up of control and it’s something that cannot really be described until experienced. Perspective people, it’s as unique as you are.

BDSM Bondage

                                           Bondage…as an ART Form?!

The type of bondage I’m going to touch on today and delve much deeper into later this week, is the Japenese form of bondage. A true art form if there ever was. It can be as simple as tying the hands together, either in front or behind or as intricate as to involve the entire body. I use it as often as I can with what experience I do have, with my submissives and slaves in training.

As Wikipedia states, “Japanese style of bondage or BDSM, which involves tying up the bottom using simple yet visually intricate patterns, usually with several pieces of thin rope…”

                    The Fast and the Quick…the Run Down

There are several different terms associated with this form of restraint, you may have even heard some of them, even if not having known much about it. The term, Shibari became more well known within BDSM circles during the early 1990′s and is actually is used to describe the bondage art, Kinbaku, literally translated means ‘tight binding’. Shibari’s translation (again, thank you Wikipedia) means ‘to tie’ or ‘to bind’.

                                            Why would I Want to be Tied Up? That’s NOT Sexy!

I beg to differ. I view bondage as a doorway to enter the mindset of an entirely different perspective. Now, for the claustrophobics out there, duh…it’s best to steer clear of such things but if you aren’t claustrophobic and you haven’t tried bondage…what’s holding you back? I lack the words just now, to even begin to attempt to explain just how seductive bondage can be. You’ll just have to take my word on it, as a lifestyle femdom mistress. Mistress oath, perhaps?

He came to me, looking for cock control. He knew that without my special services, he would never last through the merry masturbation month of May. He enjoyed stroking his own cock so much, that he was afraid that it would fall off! He also explained how his . . . → Read More: BDSM Immobilization and Torment]]>

Mistress Immobilizes you

Taking control

He came to me, looking for cock control. He knew that without my special services, he would never last through the merry masturbation month of May. He enjoyed stroking his own cock so much, that he was afraid that it would fall off! He also explained how his orgasms were becoming less and less and less powerful, less and less satisfying. He felt like he had fallen into a routine, that masturbation was just something to pass the time. “Well, stroker boy, we need to change that.”

Immobilized

I immediately had him strip naked, and get up on a turntable I have in the center of my playroom. I told him to maintain his balance, as I turned the motor on, and it began to slowly spin. I love my turntable, because it allows me to easily immobilize my victims. I grabbed the roll of plastic wrap, and, beginning at his ankles, began to wrap him tightly, making my way up his legs, overlapping each piece of plastic. When I got to his now hard, throbbing cock, I made a X, going up over one hip, across the small of his back, and then back down around his other hip and across and underneath his ass at the top of his thighs, leaving his cock and balls nicely exposed for the CBT that was to come. I made my way up the rest of his body to his shoulders, binding his arms to his sides. Turning off the motor, I then made two quick slits in the plastic freeing his nipples. Last, I slipped off my now soaking wet thong, and stuck them in his mouth.

Torment with nowhere to go.

I licked his nipples, making them hard, then quickly attached my snake bite kit to them. He began moaning through my panties, as I attached a cock and ball harness to him, and then began to softly whip his cock and balls. I kept at that until they were red and slick with pre-cum. Then I began to stroke his tormented dick. I just kept bringing him to the edge, over and over again, teasing him and denying him release. After all, he wasn’t going to be going anywhere.

Humiliation can be highly erotic, giving a submissive a view into themselves way down deep inside. It’s not done to take away someone’s sense of worth or make them feel powerless. Degradation play can include degrading words and phrases, such as, “Just whose cum slut are . . . → Read More: Helping You With Humiliation]]>

Window into Humiliation

A Window with a View…

Humiliation can be highly erotic, giving a submissive a view into themselves way down deep inside. It’s not done to take away someone’s sense of worth or make them feel powerless. Degradation play can include degrading words and phrases, such as, “Just whose cum slut are you?” and “I AM superior to you, in every way, aren’t I?” Some want that erotic thrill that comes from feelings others would avoid like the plague- embarrassment, jealousy, shame, and fear. This is the core of erotic humiliation and the portal for some, into subspace.

                     A Rose by any Other Name…

It’s about context, used as a tool to strip away the masks, protective coloration, and the defensive shell to muck through the layers to that of the real person residing within. Erotic humiliation doesn’t have to be crude or brutal, it can be delivered with finesse and can result in some very gratifying moans, groans, and mmm…other delights.

I'll Have you Beg Me

 Beg Me…on your Knees 

Erotic humiliation can be anything from submitting to a strap on dildo, servicing another submissive, or small cock humiliation or whatever the submissive views as humiliating, like feminization or a firm spanking.  Having a humiliation phone sex session with Me can be just what you need. Once I’ve completed training with my slaves and subbies, a simple snap of my fingers puts them on their knees, waiting to serve Me. A command, ‘Present”, has them in that position. they’ve learned how best to please their Mistress.

The Good Triggers

What are your trigger words? I’m all about getting those hot, squirmy, and deeply aroused responses. For keeping it all in perspective and when reality returns, the best way I’ve heard lately, and if I quote you wrong, I’ll just take it out on you later is, “It’s like a rain coat you put on. You like how it feels but once the session is over, you take it off and hang it up and become the public you.”

Time to Play!

When you’re ready, schedule an erotic humiliation session with me. Nobody does you like I do! Come see why.

H is for head games. Oh how I enjoy domination. Some of the most powerful tools always available to a femdom mistress are the simplest. Though I know a few that I may wonder about, people don’t generally misplace their brain. I did say ‘generally’.

I am your Goddess! It is not a religious title, but one of respect. When you address me, you can show your respect with so many different titles – Mistress, Empress, Domina, Maitresse – if you’re feeling Continental – or even Ma’am – although, unless it’s in something like a . . . → Read More: G is for Goddess Worship]]>

Worship Goddess Delia

I am your Goddess! It is not a religious title, but one of respect. When you address me, you can show your respect with so many different titles – Mistress, Empress, Domina, Maitresse – if you’re feeling Continental – or even Ma’am – although, unless it’s in something like a student teacher role –play, that one makes me feel old! One of my favorites though is Goddess. It makes me feel worshiped, like I am your everything, your whole reason for being. You’ll sacrifice everything to please your Goddess. And I can be a strict, demanding Goddess.

Pleasing your Goddess with pain

Your Goddess Deli wants to see how much you can take. Will I use the paddle, the flogger or the cane? Goddesses hate pale white asses, so let’s redden that one up, shall we? I won’t put you over my knee, you haven’t earned the right to touch your Goddess’ body yet. Maybe after you’ve taken the…well, we can’t call it punishment, can we? You haven’t done anything. This is purely for my pleasure, slut. It makes me so wet just thinking about what you’re about to endure to make me happy.

The Goddess is superior

Are you interested in switching your gender role? This week, The Pain Mistress is brought to you by the letter G, for gender play. You can also call this cross-dressing, transvestism or even sissy play. Put simply, it’s when those involved switch gender roles. So gender play is . . . → Read More: G is for Gender Play]]>

Bloom from your gender role

Are you interested in switching your gender role? This week, The Pain Mistress is brought to you by the letter G, for gender play. You can also call this cross-dressing, transvestism or even sissy play. Put simply, it’s when those involved switch gender roles. So gender play is when my slutty little subs dress up as pretty little sissies. Sissy play can be strict or sensual. It can be comforting or humiliating. There are a number of sissies in the Enchantrix Empire who love to dress-up and explore their softer, feminine side. We’re going to focus on the sissy who likes a side of humiliation. This is The Pain Mistress after all

Humiliating a sissy

As you all know, one of the things I like about BDSM relationships is making the sub feel vulnerable. While may times, making them strip naked and completely expose themselves will serve that function, other times it’s much more fun to slip a nice pair of lace panties and a matching bra onto them. Perhaps with a garter belt, that I can attach a pair of fishnet stockings to. They start to blush and stammer, as they tell me how nice and silky their new clothes feel. I can humiliate them even more when I begin to make fun of their clit. Well, it’s obviously too small to be a proper cock. Once I have you dressed up as a naughty little sissy, maybe I’ll take you over my knee and give you the spanking you deserve. I can always reach inside that bra and pinch your nipples!

Ms. Delia, is that a strap-on, or are you just glad to see me?

One aspect of gender play that doesn’t get much attention is when the Dominant partner switches roles. There are many stories with cross-dressing “mistresses”, but how would you react if Ms. Delia dressed up in white tank top, a leather jacket, a pair of jeans and some black Doc Martens (Okay, my DD’s might be a bit hard to hide!), and forced you to your knees in front of me. Yes, that’s it, slut, rub your face against that big bulge in my pants. Now, unzip my jeans and free my big hard cock. Now, be a good little cocksucking bitch for me. If you’re really good, I might just find another place to use that big dick of mine!